How To Make a Narcissist Come Crawling Back? (2022)

Last Updated on July 4, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester

Have you broken up with your narcissistic partner, and now you want them back? But you don’t just want them back; you want them to come crawling, begging, and pleading in the most desperate and undignified manner? But how to make a Narcissist come crawling back at you?

It might seem impossible, but you can achieve this if you know what to do. Here’s a secret you probably didn’t know, narcissists will break down if they see their ex-partner happy or when their ex-partner ignores them.

For one, they hate seeing their former victims partners happy, and two, they need constant attention.

When you ignore a narcissist, they’ll go to great lengths to get your attention because they can’t live without it.

How to Make a Narcissist Come Crawling Back?

How to make the narcissist come crawling back to you?

One way is to post amazing pictures on social media and make it look like you’re living your best life. Another way is to ignore the narcissist completely and give them no attention whatsoever.

Although narcissists are stubborn and rarely chase when in relationships, you can get them to come crawling back.

Act as if you don’t care you’ve been dumped and you’re better off without them. It won’t be long before the narcissist comes crawling back, wondering why you’re living your best life and not knocking on their door begging to take them back.

Here are some tips on how to make a narcissist come back:

Narcissists can’t stand seeing their victims happy; it completely enrages them. The narcissist kept you miserable when you were together, and they’re damn sure not going to accept you being happy now they’vediscardedyou.

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The narcissist dumped you in such a cruel way because they thought they had bled you dry and you had nothing left to give.

As far as the narcissist was concerned, you were completely useless. So if the narcissist sees you living your best life shortly after they’ve dumped you, it’s going to infuriate them. Here’s the plan…

Shortly after the breakup, have a wild girls’ night out on the town; if you can, go on vacation. Take loads of pictures of you having the time of your life; make sure you look AMAZING! Get some guys in the photos and post them to your social media.

Your ex will be furious when he sees them, and will immediately want to knock you off your high horse. You barely cracked a smile when you were together because you were so scared.

Now you’ve broke up, you’re sporting a smile as wide as the Atlantic, and you’re with other men! ABSOLUTELY NOT!

As soon as the narcissist sees those pictures, they’ll have a burningdesireto want to put a stop to your happiness, and the only way they can do that is if they’re back in your life. So expect your ex to come knocking.

Ignore the Narcissist When They Call.

Now you’ve set the stage for your narcissist to come back, they will reach out to you. After they see the picture, they’ll give it a couple of weeks before contacting you so as not to appear too eager.

When they do, don’t respond. Ignoring the narcissist will madden them to no end. You’re having the time of your life, and you’re shutting them out! The narcissist will declare an all-out cold war on you.

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They’ll come at you with their guns blazing but disguise it as love. The narcissist will go back to what they know works. It won’t be long before thelove-bombingbegins.

You’ll start receiving flowers, gifts, invitations to dinner, and anything else that comes with their strategy. Their ultimate mission is to bring you back down to the peasant level, so when you ignore the narcissist, expect them to go hard trying to win you over.

Block The Narcissist on All Platforms.

Now it’s time to take this plan to the next level. The ball is in your court since the narcissist has reached out to you.

The narcissist knows this, but they did not intend for it to stay this way—the narcissists plans on snatching that ball right back as soon as they get into your life.

Go ahead and block the narcissist on all platforms; make sure they can’t reach you on social media, email, or phone.

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Aim for completeno contact. The narcissist will know you’ve blocked them because they don’t have access to you anymore, and they’ll have a panic attack. The narcissist will go insane and will do everything in their power to reach you.

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They’ll turn up at your job, your house, your parent’s house. They will run around like a headless chicken trying to contact you. Let this go on for a few weeks, and when you think the time is right, give the narcissist an inch by letting them contact you by phone. Once they finally get hold of you, their level of desperation will shock you.

Start Working on Yourself.

The narcissist wants you to remain a scared, insecure person who believes they’ve got nothing going for them.

That’s how you felt when you were together, and that’s how the narcissist expects you to remain. The minute they see you’ve broken free from their chains, they will want to take you down off your high horse.

Start something like a 30 day get your body right challenge and post your updates on social media. In between that, post about personal development, loving yourself, and spiritual growth.

The narcissist won’t like this new positive mindset you’ve developed, and they’ll need to infiltrate your life to drag you back down to their level.

Can You Get a Narcissist to Come Back?

You can get the narcissist to come back by clarifying therelationshipis over and by dating again. After you break up with the narcissist, they will act like they don’t want anything more to do with you. But in most cases, they leave the door open just in case they need you for anything.

Make it Clear the Relationship is Over

Whether the narcissist dumped you or you dumped them, let the narcissist know therelationshipis officially over.

You are NEVER coming back, and they shouldn’t bother trying to get back with you either. Don’t phone; they won’t answer, do it by text or email. Putting a stamp on the end of therelationshipwill aggravate the narcissist.

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To the narcissist, it will look like the shoe is on the other foot; even if they discarded you, you banging the final nail in the coffin will make them feel as if you dumped them.

The narcissist will wonder whether you were planning on ending therelationship, but they beat you to it.

These thoughts will drive the narcissist crazy, and to make sure it’s all in their imagination, they will start working on getting you back so that they can have the last laugh.

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Start Dating Again

After letting the narcissist know therelationshipis officially over, get yourself a new partner. Please make sure they are a thousand times hotter than the narcissist, take a bunch of photos and post them to your social media.

The narcissist will see them because they don’t block their exes; they want to monitor their lives and ensure they’re not doing well.

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The moment your ex sees you’ve got a new partner and you look happy, they will fly into arageand start planning to take you down. It won’t be long before the narcissist starts worming their way back into your life.

What Makes the Narcissist Want You Back?

To make the narcissist want you back, remind them of what they’re missing by showing them you’ve got plenty ofnew supplyto give.

The narcissist thrives on externalvalidation. Because of their deep-rooted insecurities, they cannot love themselves, and they seek affirmation from outside sources.

Once you start telling the narcissist how great they are, you become a source of supply, and they won’t be able to resist you.

Remind the Narcissist of What They Are Missing

The narcissist discarded you because they assumed you had run out ofsupply.

You can get the narcissist to come crawling back by letting them know there’s plenty more available. Play the narcissist at their own game by love-bombing them.

Start sending your ex text messages and emails telling them how great they are. How much you love and miss them because they are so awesome.

Please go over the top with it; once the narcissist realizes what they’re missing, they will come crawling back.

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How do You Get a Narcissist to Talk to You Again?

You can get the narcissist to talk to you again by accepting responsibility for the breakup and removing all obstacles preventing them from contacting you.

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The narcissist will jump at the chance to destroy your life again. You can expect them to come running back with open arms once you use this strategy.

Let the Narcissist Know You Accept Responsibility

Narcissists like seeing their victims beg; it gives them the utmost pleasure to know they’vecontrolover a person.

When you contact the narcissist and tell them you fully accept it was your fault therelationshipdidn’t work. You can hook them by referring to yourself as everything they said you were.

Admit you’re stupid and incapable of living without them. Your confession will feed the narcissist’s ego, and they’ll want to hear you say it again and again. The narcissist will start calling to listen to you beg.

Get Rid of All Obstacles

After you broke up, did you block your partner on all platforms? Perhaps you felt threatened and took a restraining order out against them?

Doing stuff like this will infuriate the narcissist because although they discarded you, they need to know they’ve got access to you at all times. The last thing you want is to have an angry narcissist on your tail.

You can slowly start getting things back on track by letting them know you’ve removed the restrictions and they have access to you. You might want to start by liking one of their social media posts.

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If that doesn’t work, move on to giving the narcissist a missed call. If you got a new partner or a restraining order, send the narcissist a text message or email letting them know how sorry you are, you’ve lifted the restraining order, and the new partner is no longer in your life.

You may even want to go as far as saying your new partner was controlling you because your breakup left you so vulnerable. It was them that made you put a block on and get the restraining order.

It’s important to mention the narcissist will not get back to you straight away. They’ll be rubbing their hands together in glee because you’ve made contact, but the narcissist will want you to suffer.

I can’t tell you how long they’ll make you wait, but there will be a delay in contacting you because the narcissist wants you to know that they are incontrolnow. During this time, they’ll be planning exactly how they’re going to ensure they break you down completely once you’re back.

Final Thought

If you want the narcissist to come crawling back, the methods mentioned will work. Nevertheless, you need to understand that when you get back with the narcissist, you will be in a warzone.

If you thought things were bad when you first got together, it’s going to be a hell of a lot worse, especially if you were the one who walked out on the narcissist.

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As mentioned, before the narcissist comes back, they will devise a military-style strategic plan to ensure they obliterate you.

You will need to prepare for this, are you strong enough for the onslaught that’s coming? If not, I suggest you ditch your plan to get the narcissist to come crawling back.

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FAQs

What to say to a narcissist to get him back? ›

To make the narcissist want you back, remind them of what they're missing by showing them you've got plenty of new supply to give. The narcissist thrives on external validation. Because of their deep-rooted insecurities, they cannot love themselves, and they seek affirmation from outside sources.

How long does it take a narcissist to come back? ›

Darlene Lancer, many narcissists can only sustain a relationship for six months to a few years (at the most). Keep in mind, though, we're talking about one four-stage cycle. Too often, a narcissist will initiate the cycle again, training their target to expect them to come back. Narcissists don't offer closure.

How do you make a narcissist miss you? ›

The key to getting a narcissist to chase you is to show them what they're missing out on. You need to remind them of how valuable you were in their life. Narcissists will only treat you with kindness and respect when they believe they can lose something valuable to them.

How do you play a narcissist at a game? ›

Narcissists thrive on drama. They will gaslight you into a belief that everything is your fault, denying blatant lies, and play a victim. Don't allow the narcissist to pull you in their pattern. Try to always stick to the facts.

How do you trick a narcissist? ›

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What happens when you stop giving a narcissist attention? ›

If you ignore a narcissist and deny them their source, they may become enraged and try even harder for your attention – especially in ways that can be toxic or abusive. Ignoring a narcissist will enrage them because of their fragile egos. They'll feel humiliated and lash out against you to protect themselves.

How do you get a narcissist to do what you want? ›

This is how to win with a narcissist:
  1. In your personal life, use “empathy prompts”: Music doesn't soothe the savage beast, but reminding them about relationships and your feelings can.
  2. Use “We”: It's just one word but it's effective with narcissists. ...
  3. Reward Good Behavior: When the puppy behaves, give it a treat.

How long will a narcissist stalk you? ›

Stalkers often exhibit narcissistic behavior — a tendency to control everyone in their lives, and particularly their victims. The behavior can even go on for years. Do you think it is possible for someone to stalk you for 18 years? One Reddit user has had this particular problem.

How do you know if a narcissist will come back? ›

Even their distressing discard performance will leave you in a firm belief they're done with you; a narcissist will come back. They will promise to change or gaslight you into believing that you are taking it too seriously or that you are too dramatic until you start feeling confused and guilty.

How do you make a narcissist feel guilty? ›

To make a narcissist feel guilty about their actions or mistakes, they need to know that there are consequences. Let the narcissist know that you won't tolerate their actions and that you're willing to walk away from the relationship if it continues.

What does no contact do to a narcissist? ›

If we ignore them again by saying “no” or going “no contact” with them, narcissists might go into a complete rage. This rage is a coping mechanism in order for them to deal with us keeping our distance from them or saying “no” to them. A rejection of narcissists means that we think they are not perfect.

Do narcissists miss you after no contact? ›

Do narcissists miss their ex after No Contact? Now you might be thinking that the narcissist really misses you and the answer is yes, they do but not the way you hope. As we explained above, you were their source of narcissistic supply — a source of love, admiration, and praise.

When the narcissist knows you have figured him out? ›

They use projection

When the narcissist knows you have figured him out and when they can't control you, one of the common narcissist reactions is to play on your emotional side. They will use all their gimmicks to prey on you, making you sympathize with them.

What makes a narcissist scared? ›

Narcissists are terrified of being alone, and their greatest fear is abandonment. Setting clear boundaries or not reacting to their chaotic manipulation will cause them to become afraid of losing you even though they may never admit it.

How does a narcissist react when they can't control you? ›

Narcissists also gaslight or practice master manipulation, weakening and destabilizing their victims; finally, they utilize positive and negative emotions or moments to trick others. When a narcissist can't control you, they'll likely feel threatened, react with anger, and they might even start threatening you.

What upsets a narcissist the most? ›

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They don't get their way, even if what they want is unreasonable. They feel that they've been criticized, even if the critique is constructive or said kindly. They're not the center of attention. They're caught breaking rules or not respecting boundaries.

What turns a narcissist off? ›

The best way to shut down a narcissist is to not engage with them at all and to go no contact. People that are narcissistic want things from you – they want your attention and your emotional reaction.

What do narcissists crave? ›

Narcissistic supply is how narcissists cope with the world, making it a place for them to thrive. Wanting attention, accolades, and validation are not narcissistic in nature. We all need to feel heard and have a sense of belonging, but narcissists crave this attention constantly.

How do you trigger a narcissist? ›

What Triggers a Narcissist?
  1. Getting caught doing something dishonest or mean.
  2. Being held accountable for their actions.
  3. Not being the center of attention.
  4. Any form of criticism — no matter how constructive or accurate.
  5. Being exposed as a manipulator or liar.
  6. A sense of not being in control.
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How do you humiliate a narcissist? ›

If you want to cut to a narcissist's emotional core, make them look bad in public. Try challenging their opinions, ignoring their commands, or laughing at their misfortunes and they'll fly into a narcissistic rage.

Does no contact hurt a narcissist? ›

Yes, going no contact with a narcissist hurt them. That's because they do not have the power to have full access to you. They live for the power and make you live by their rules. Instead of accepting this fact and moving on, your ex will inform everyone that they broke up with you.

What does a narcissist think when you block them? ›

Most narcissists will view being blocked as an act of aggression. A blocked narcissist won't have any ability to silence or control you, which is very important for them. This is highly likely to be an overwhelming and scary feeling for them.

Will a narcissist ever regret losing you? ›

Do narcissists regret discarding or losing someone? It is common for people with a narcissistic personality disorder to regret discarding or losing someone, but it does not mean what you might think. If they feel regret, it is not because they hurt you. It is for losing something that they value.

How does a narcissist end a relationship? ›

MD. At the end of a relationship, a narcissist will often spiral down a long-winded gauntlet of manipulation tactics. They may blame you for causing the relationship to fail, work hard to keep you to stay with them, make lofty promises to change their behavior, or badmouth you to everyone around them.

Will a narcissist come back if you unmask them? ›

As you can see from the above, many narcissists are quite willing to come back for as long as it suits their needs, while remaining oblivious to yours. If you cannot realistically envision a good future together that does not involve the narcissist suddenly becoming different, you might want to stay “discarded.”

What triggers the narcissist to want you back? ›

They may be pretending like they want you back just to get a reaction out of you, just to see if they still have some power over you, if they can still control you. Seeing that they're still able to control your emotions will make them feel powerful.

How do you know if narcissist will come back? ›

Even their distressing discard performance will leave you in a firm belief they're done with you; a narcissist will come back. They will promise to change or gaslight you into believing that you are taking it too seriously or that you are too dramatic until you start feeling confused and guilty.

How do you get a narcissist to do what you want? ›

This is how to win with a narcissist:
  1. In your personal life, use “empathy prompts”: Music doesn't soothe the savage beast, but reminding them about relationships and your feelings can.
  2. Use “We”: It's just one word but it's effective with narcissists. ...
  3. Reward Good Behavior: When the puppy behaves, give it a treat.

Will a narcissist come back for their stuff? ›

It's all a trick to reassert their control. So, in short, the answer is yes, a narcissist will continue to come back after “no contact” until their targets cut off all forms of narcissistic supply, leaving them no choice but to go find other prey upon which to feed. What is this?

What does ignoring a narcissist do to them? ›

If you ignore a narcissist and deny them their source, they may become enraged and try even harder for your attention – especially in ways that can be toxic or abusive. Ignoring a narcissist will enrage them because of their fragile egos. They'll feel humiliated and lash out against you to protect themselves.

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